Taking responsibility
Taking responsibility on your Twin Flame Journey.
The Mirror Exercise is a powerful spiritual tool designed to point you to the pattern within yourself causing discomfort and bring love there. Practicing the four-step process regularly helps you to take responsibility for what is being reflected by your reality and master it. Since your Twin Flame is your Divine Mirror, the Mirror Exercise is especially effective at healing what they reflect to you. They are only ever reflecting your One Consciousness. (Hint: mirroring things for you to heal is one way your Twin Flame loves you the most!)
When you understand that the Mirror Exercise means that you get to take your power back from what is triggering you on the outside and love yourself on the inside, the journey can feel much easier. No matter what is happening on the outside, if it feels bad to you, you can heal what it brings up within you using this powerful too. When you heal the layers of the upset, you will either no longer be triggered by the thing happening in the external, or it will cease happening altogether. This is a result of you feeling better first. You don't need the outside to shift in order for you to feel better; the inner creates the outer, so you feel better first and your external reality reflects that.
The reason why it's important to feel all your feelings is because in order to bring love to places that aren't receiving love, you must actually go to those dark places to bring Love there. The Mirror Exercise helps you do this, and your Beloved Twin Flame is likely the one to bring up these painful places most clearly, since they are literally you (you share the same Soul Essence, or Soul Blueprint.)
All of this is found in Jeff and Shaleia's book, Twin Flames: Finding Your Ultimate Lover, and in their classes of Twin Flame Ascension School. A Certified AScension Coach can help you walk through the Mirror Exercise.
My experience
From using the Mirror Exercise regularly, working with a Certified Coach, and watching Twin Flame Ascension School classes, I've witness my Union grow, heal and begin to blossom. Josh and I had some very codependent patterns in our Union that came to the surface after we moved in together. It wasn't compassionate for us to continue living so closely while we healed these patterns.
At first, I did not want to take responsibility for what he was showing me. He was not only addicted to substances and leaking our money to them, but also was treating me like garbage, not connecting with me, devaluing me. I had a habit of blaming the other person and claiming to be a victim. This won't ever work to heal your Union, and the truth is, you are never a victim since you create your own reality. I had a lot of arrogance about this, and was afraid to look at myself, or admit that I was the one choosing this, but what I didn't realize is that it wasn't painful at all to face these patterns, it was, in fact liberating. Freedom lies in humility and being with God.
With the support of Jeff and Shaleia's community, the classes, Jeff's group coaching, and my coaches, I was able to - layer by layer - feel safer and loving toward myself. I began to accept that I had those same patterns, and take responsibility for them. I no longer felt afraid to face myself. I was no longer abusing myself, or seeing myself as a victim (two sides of the same coin) but instead having deep compassion with myself and loving and encouraging myself to keep going, keep loving, and keep desiring to change.
Over time and practice with the Mirror Exercise, I began to build trust with myself that I could do it, that I wasn't going to abandon this process, that I, in fact, had the power to heal anything I chose to. While upsets still arose, I began to feel more confident in approaching them. The journey became easier.
My inner life began to feel better and better.
Josh began to talk with me - our conversations had an element of aliveness, much like a taught rubber band compared to a limp one. He knows how to challenge me on all levels. He's a sharp-shooter, doesn't sugar coat, and gets straight to the point. A bit sassy. Very logical. He's like me. (duh.) And, he definitely disciplines me whenever I'm out of alignment with Love.
Where we once had a purely physical relationship, we are now connecting and communicating. We had a date three nights ago where we discussed his way of eliminating the ego patterns in his mind, and challenged me in places where my mind was drifting out of presence. There's still a lot that is challenging me in our Union, and I am facing these things and continuing to take responsibility for what he shows me, loving myself and loving him.
I'm also accepting myself as I am right now, and where my Union is at right now. In the past, I had wanted to blast forward and skip over this part, the very important part of loving myself unconditionally right where I am. But, even though I did that, this community, Jeff and Shaleia's teachings, my coaches and the school brought me back into alignment with how God desired for me to live and be, in His Unconditional Love. As long as I continued to show up, I was guided.
So, this journey is one that keeps unfolding, and keeps expanding into more love. Surrendering into the process and allowing myself to be guided, shaped, and healed is what is moving me forward, not by controlling or wrangling my reality. The Mirror Exercise helped me to take responsibility for my life and claim my power. It works. All it takes is persistence and commitment to never give up.
Do you choose this as well? Do you choose to feel better by taking responsibility for what is being shown to you in your reality? Do you choose to see that by doing this, you will be set free and increase the love in your life? Do you choose to accept Jeff and Shaleia as your teachers and let them guide you home? You lose nothing and gain everything through this work.
