Integration Time

If you're reading this, chances are you're not feeling great about your Twin Flame Union on some level. And that's okay. The important thing is that you're actively engaged in your learning process, whether through reading Jeff and Shaleia’s book, Twin Flames: Finding Your Ultimate Lover, Twin Flame Ascension School, or Ascension Coaching. But there's something I've noticed that needs to be addressed because I want you to feel good and ace your game on the Twin Flame Journey.

Often, when we start this work, we feel really good. We realize that everything bothering us about our twin flame is actually resolvable within ourselves. We start finding those places of self-love, we do the Mirror Exercise and we feel phenomenal! However, what tends to happen is that we become attached to that good feeling and expect to feel that way all the time. In truth, the healing process has its own rhythm. That rhythm is: you feel better, and then the next upset arises.

This next upset can feel perplexing and gnarly, and just after you felt peace. So, you question if you're doing the work right or if it even works at all. But trust me, it does work, and yes, you are making progress and doing it right! The rhythm of your healing journey is to feel better and then confront the next upset. Your job is not to be perfectly without upset while working towards Perfect Union; your job is to move through the upsets. But there’s still something that you may be missing…

Let’s talk about integration time.

Some of you enjoy diving deep into your consciousness and immersing yourselves in Twin Flame Ascension School and writing out your Mirror Exercises. That's great, but it's important to give yourself integration time. Integration happens on a subconscious level, and all you need to do is relax. Order your favorite takeout, watch a movie, go for a walk, play video games, or do artwork. Allow yourself time to chill, heal, and integrate.

Why is integration so important? Well, if you don't integrate, it's not compassionate to your consciousness. You'll keep tapping into the sensitive area within yourself over and over, trying to drill down in your consciousness for an instant Perfect Union, that never feeling bad ever again. But that's not compassionate, it's an anxious energy, and it won't lead to true healing.

Think of it this way: When you go to the gym and want to get fit, you lift weights and feel a little sore the next day. It's not so bad, so you go to the gym again, and your muscles feel even more sore. But if you keep going without giving your body time to integrate, you might end up injuring yourself. The same is true for your inner work.

So why do you try to bulldoze through your healing? There are two common reasons: first, you want to get there really fast and avoid feeling bad or experiencing upheaval. Second, you think you're missing something, and if you don't heal now, some hidden upset will sneak up on you. But let me assure you, upsets can't actually hurt you. They might make you feel bad, but the bad feeling itself can't harm you. It's important to let it come out and allow it to heal.

Remember, when you make a new choice, everything out of alignment with that choice will come up in your vibration to heal. You'll have infinite opportunities to make new choices, and if you don't get it this time, you'll get it next time. So, don't worry. You're not alone in your healing journey. There is a loving architect, whether you call it God, Spirit, the Universe, or your higher power, overseeing your healing process. Relax, surrender, and let that higher power guide you.

Now, I understand that it may take some time to get used to this. Upsets will arise, but you need to learn to differentiate between an upset and upheaval. Upheaval is different, and it requires different approaches. But even those upsets, you don't need to keep drilling into them. Allow yourself to chip away at them over time, just like chipping away at blocks in Minecraft, one block at a time. Layer by layer.

One thing is certain: you deserve for your journey to be fun and easy, and you deserve support! So, if you're struggling with this process, let me help you. You can book an introductory Twin Flame Ascension coaching session with me. For your first session, you'll get 50% off, and you can email me, and I’ll show you how to get this discount. I offer both private and group sessions, and I'd love to support you on your Twin Flame journey.