Key 7: Forgiveness
If you're seeking to establish a rock-solid foundation for your Perfect Union with your Twin Flame, there's one crucial aspect that cannot be overlooked – forgiveness. In its essence, forgiveness means "to let go of completely." It is the art of releasing past upsets and grievances, not for the benefit of the other person, but for your own liberation and growth.
Grudges, holding onto anger, and refusing to forgive may seem like a way to gain leverage or make someone else change their behavior. However, the truth is that this pattern of unforgiveness only perpetuates separation consciousness and keeps you trapped in a cycle of emotional turmoil. When you hold a grudge, you don't hurt the other person – you hurt yourself.
We often come across Twin Flame couples who resemble squabbling ducks, each clinging to ancient grudges and expecting the other to take notice and change for them. This approach is not only counterproductive but also illogical when you consider the fundamental truth – your Twin Flame is an extension of you.
In other relationships, holding grudges may have worked as a way to manipulate or control the other person, causing them pain until they conceded. However, this tactic doesn't apply to your Twin Flame Union. Holding onto grudges in this sacred connection will only serve to immerse you deeper into the realm of separation consciousness.
The key to breaking free from this pettiness and ascending to a higher plane of consciousness is true forgiveness. It's an elevated state of being that you can easily attain by making a simple choice that you commit to for all eternity.
Here's a powerful decree by Jeff and Shaleia in their book, Twin Flames: Finding Your Ultimate Lover to help you embrace forgiveness:
“I choose to forgive all upsets past, present, and future any time they arise. Forgiveness comes easily, joyfully, and naturally to me because forgiveness is part of who I am, and extending forgiveness to another naturally extends forgiveness into myself.”
This unconditional release of grudges is genuine forgiveness, and it's what you must master to establish a stable and permanent foundation for your Union. If it feels overwhelming at first, don't worry. Take your time, absorb the wisdom, and meditate deeply on each concept.
The journey towards mastering forgiveness is an ongoing process, and you have an eternity to integrate these teachings into your being. While procrastination doesn't serve your Union, taking the time to fully absorb and embody the wisdom we impart in our work is a valuable investment. These principles will serve you not only in your Twin Flame journey but throughout your eternal life.
True forgiveness is the act of letting go of old grievances. It acknowledges that what you thought your Twin Flame did to you didn't truly occur. It doesn't condone or validate any perceived wrongs. Instead, forgiveness recognizes that these grievances were mere illusions and lets them go. As you practice unconditional forgiveness, you'll find yourself transported into a realm of divine presence, free from self-judgment and judgment of your Twin Flame.
In the words of A Course in Miracles, "Forgiveness recognizes what you thought your brother did to you has not occurred. It does not pardon sins and make them real. It sees there was no sin. And in that view are all your sins forgiven" (A Course In Miracles, Workbook Lesson 220, Part II, "1. What is forgiveness," 1).
Embrace unconditional forgiveness, and you will dwell eternally in the Kingdom of Heaven, where you can be fully present with the goodness that surrounds you, especially in your connection with your beloved Twin Flame. You will experience freedom from judgment, both of yourself and your Twin Flame, and find yourself on a path to lasting harmony and Union.
