Key 5: Compassion
Compassion has been one of the most essential ingredients in my own Twin Flame Union. I used to have a tendency to be hard on myself and others. I would judge myself harshly, and that was amplified in my own Union. But through practicing the Teachings of Union and receiving the guidance and support of my coach and teachers, Jeff and Shaleia, I learned how to be more gentle and compassionate, and my Union thrived as a result.
Compassion is a pivotal element on the path to Twin Flame Harmony that cannot be emphasized enough. Without empathy and compassion for yourself and your Twin Flame, your journey towards Harmonious Union will be fraught with judgment, anger, and disappointment, creating barriers to attaining the vibrational state necessary for a harmonious connection.
To be truly accepted by your Twin Flame, you must first cultivate compassion for yourself and acknowledge the trials and tribulations that have shaped you into the person you are today, as well as the path you are currently treading. Self-acceptance and compassion, both for yourself and your Twin Flame, will fill you with love and grace because you're extending love to the parts of yourself and your Twin Flame that have experienced pain, ignorance, or separation from your higher self and your Creator.
Compassion is an essential building block of Perfect Union, but it's also a lesson that you will repeatedly encounter and be tested on throughout your journey. It starts with the recognition that no one else can harm or affect you in any way. By understanding that the choices of others, even those that may appear detrimental, cannot harm you, you can detach yourself from their decisions. Even the choices made by your Twin Flame cannot have a separate impact on you; they merely reveal your own choices and inner state.
Once you've released attachment, you can acknowledge the pain or discomfort your Twin Flame may be experiencing as a result of their upsetting choices. This is where compassion comes into play. It's not about feeling pity or sadness for them; it's about understanding that they don't have to feel bad about their experiences, and that they can make new choices whenever they are ready to release the turmoil.
Having compassion for your Twin Flame means loving them so deeply that you allow them to navigate their own healing journey. It means standing by them through their challenges, even if you possess the answers they may choose not to heed.
Compassion extends beyond your Twin Flame and into your interactions with others. Along your journey, you're likely to encounter people who are making poor decisions that seem self-destructive. Remember that their choices cannot harm you unless you choose to internalize their choices of separation. In some instances, you might also recognize that they are mirroring an aspect of your own inner world that requires healing.
There may be times when you have to let go of individuals you once considered close, especially when it becomes clear that their core alignment doesn't prioritize loving you. True compassion sometimes means allowing others to leave your life so that you can truly thrive and discover them anew in a more loving light. This can lead to the rapid transformation of your relationship into something more evolved and filled with love.
But remember, true compassion begins with having compassion for yourself. It involves not pushing yourself beyond sustainable and balanced limits. It's about honoring your feelings and embracing where you are in your journey. It means loving yourself enough to say "Yes" to choices that are loving and "No" to choices that are not. This self-compassion forms the foundation of a strong, balanced, healthy, and sustainable self, paving the way for a rock-solid basis upon which to build your Perfect Union.
